Since I wrote about Becoming a Drug Lord the other week, I decided I should talk about “normal.”
Most people are normal. There’s nothing wrong with that, because you can’t help it. It’s the reason that hipster turned into a joke. We don’t like things that aren’t normal – at least at an approachable distance. We like the celebrities are just that: unattainable, far away and trapped in our little screens.
Why is that? I don’t know and I don’t care, because they’re safely tucked away and I’m sitting here typing on my bed.
We love to be tantalized by the abnormal – be it the beautiful or the ugly. There’s a reason that Megan Fox is famous and it’s the same reason that People of Wal-Mart is famous. They’re both fun to look at. But looking is a passive way of living. You don’t interact with Megan Fox (and no you never will) and you probably won’t interact with that morbidly obese man in the power wheelchair in Wal-Mart.
We interact with the normal (or acceptably unnormal) people around us. We pick our friends based on how comfortable we are with their existence. If they make us uncomfortable, we probably won’t befriend them. So we pick people who are like us, boring, and safe.
Then we realize, these people aren’t at all like the normal they pretended to be. Everyone has some crazy stuff inside. We’re all broken, but because of the idealized stuff we see on all of our screens we think that normal is a music video. It’s delusional and dangerous.
People have expectations for incredible romances, for a riveting life, or even a semblance of “normal” travelling. What we really yearn for is fulfillment. People look for fulfillment in everything. People think that they’ll find “the one” and all their (hey, I’m going to swear here, cover your eyes if you’re a sissy or read this post and get over yourself) shit will be solved. The same goes with travelling and expats. People leave and travel to get away from the shitty parts of their life and to try to change their life. People sell drugs so they can make money to have more things.
None of this is wise at all; it’s just vanity.
The search for fulfillment is a bad modus operandi. I could run the boring and unhelpful Christian tag-line saying “find your fulfillment in God (Jesus, Holy Spirit)!” but that’s a cop-out. How do you do that? Oh wait, no one knows because you’re not going to feel fulfilled. That’s not a bad thing.
We’re always searching to be comfortable, but I think that it’s better to learn to be uncomfortable. When James says to consider your trials pure joy he means it. Every day is a trial and we should learn to revel in them. They teach us and grow us.
Remember, being normal is normal so enjoy it. I’ll leave you with my favorite verse, where God says that the best thing we can do is to enjoy the normal, everyday.
“I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live; also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil—this is God’s gift to man.”
It’s normal to follow me on Twitter.